Everything happens for a reason. This is so much easier to say, than it is to believe. But I promise you this… when you look back you will be able to join the dots …
Everything happens at exactly the right moment. And how frustrating is that … especially when there’s something you really, really want, and the moment is not RIGHT NOW?
The thing is, that sometimes if you want something really badly … you’re stopping it from manifesting in your life simply because you can’t let it go.
It sounds weird but letting go is exactly what you need to do. You need to make your wish and then let go of it … give up the desire … let go of the need … be happy with the status quo … and when you have done that, magnificent things can happen. And sometimes you’ll realise that you didn’t quite get what you asked for – you got something better instead!
The same rule applies when good things fall apart too.
These things always happen for a reason. They might be painful moments that change your entire world, but the key to getting through them and out the other side is realising that there’s always a bigger picture. Unfortunately most of us learn more from the bad stuff than we do the good stuff, but it’s all designed to help us grow and expand our consciousness and become better versions of ourselves.
When you live with the belief that things really do happen for you and not to you, you can create miracles in every moment. You can move your emotions from angry or hurt or sad, to feeling good. When you recognise the moment for what it is – a lesson, a test, an opportunity to say ‘aha’, then you win. Always.
Because you’re no longer a victim of circumstance.
So how do you go about doing this?
It’s not easy – we all get caught up and live our lives on ‘auto-pilot’ a lot of the time. But when you make an effort to live consciously – that is, when you’re so present in each and every moment that you actually catch yourself before you lose your temper because the driver in front of you cut you off – which just drives you crazy! … Then you have real power: The power not to ‘buy into’ the situation … and the power to change your reaction. The power to experience the moment the way you want to, not necessarily the way that it has been presented to you.
You can step back, maybe laugh a little and completely stop yourself before your blood boils up with rage, and then you can calmly thank the world around you for the gift. Because in that one moment, you empowered yourself, because you changed your unconscious reaction to a conscious response.
It’s important to be aware of what’s happening – when you have the power to change something and when you don’t. It’s important too, to just have faith that things will work out …. maybe not quite how you planned, but how it’s meant to be … you just never know what tomorrow brings.
Just because something isn’t happening for you right now doesn’t mean that it will never happen. You are exactly where you need to be at this very point in time. Everything in life is a ‘choice’ and life is what you make of it. Everything you want will come to you at the perfect time!
What’s meant to be will always find its way
When things happen, it is entirely up to you how you label your experience. You might have heard the expression, “glass half full, or half empty?” It’s an old adage to describe people who have a tendency to be either optimistic or pessimistic, and it’s a good way to explore the point here too. You can dwell on disaster or find the silver lining and often the silver lining is the learning curve – the exact thing that you needed as a unique personal contrivance right here, right now, to take you from where you are, to where you want to be …
Sometimes it’s useful to see the bigger picture … especially when something is distressing you. It can be really hard to stand back at times like this, but a useful mental tool in these kinds of situations is to jump in a helicopter, in your head.
Zoom out on your perspective and try to see the bigger picture. As the helicopter takes off, engage your imagination and visualize the whole thing – the detail at ground level getting harder to determine as a wide, expansive, breathtaking view comes into focus.
Then ask yourself these questions;
- What’s the bigger picture here?
- What am I reacting to?
- What does this situation mean to me?
- What would be the best thing for me to do?
- If this were happening to my best friend, what advice would I give them?
When you do this, you will actually also help your emotions to settle, because by engaging your brain, you take the focus off the ‘feeling’ and this is always useful when you’re trying to detach from something that has you all wound up!
Being wound up in emotion is helpful, but only for a short period of time. Emotions are you’re your gauge – they tell you when you’re stressed, angry, scared, happy or courageous. But when the negative ones become overwhelming, you need to work hard at getting the brain re-engaged so you can work out a solution to the situation you’re facing, or decide (if it’s completely glorious) how to get more and more and more of it! Either way, the head and the emotions work in tandem to enrich your life experience.
Life is 10% of what happens … and 90% how you react to it!
You are free to make whatever choice you want in life, but you are not free from the consequences of your choice. How you react to any situation has a HUGE impact on how quickly you recover. The simple fact of the matter is that you can’t control other people but you can control your reactions to them.
Remember no one can EVER make you feel anything unless you allow them to. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. How people treat you is their karma, and how you treat them or react to them is your karma. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, and keep in mind that people will ALWAYS remember how you made them feel. Don’t go littering negativity everywhere and wonder ‘why’ you have got a crummy life.
Change is inevitable – in fact it is the only thing in life that we can count on, so we need to learn how to ride the wave. When you shift your mindset and understand that everything happens for you, you can be ready with open arms to receive the best in life.