‘The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself’ – Mark Twain
What you think about, you bring about. Both analytical and holistic modalities now all finally agree on this. Our minds are our frontier at present and we are beginning to understand. New thinking is just that. New Age is just that. It’s NEW. ‘New’, to most people, it’s thoroughly frightening inside. ‘New’ is very easy to distrust because it doesn’t have a trusted history to fall back on. If you look deeper though, and look impartially, the ‘new’ things are now explaining much of our history, we are discovering in neuroscience & linguistics (These are not labels, they’re adjectives– describing words. These are the findings of the studies of the brain and how to work with it) and by what we are discovering and rediscovering in quantum physics, mechanics, and esotericisms both conventional and so on…
These findings have allowed us to look at ourselves with far more insight than at any other point in human history and this discovery has lead to a deeper understanding of our many ‘Selves’.
The thing about the varying ‘Selves’ is that they are just that: portions of your SELF (think of a pie chart). They are parts within YOU. We seem to want them to be more for some reason. As more they are easier to face. As more they are easier to explain and understand. As more they are externalised and therefore easier to blame. As more, your ‘Selves’ end up covered over by the thinking behind your BELIEFS.
Remember what you think about you bring about. If you are a person who is constantly on the ‘self-discovery journey’ but you can’t tell me how you feel in your own words, then you have not learnt anything about your SELF through the words you regurgitate from your ‘Self’ learnings. Do you see?
If you look at your ‘Selves’, if you can hear your ‘Self’ first – You are more able to relate to the people in your life. You are more able to connect with people in general. When you can connect, you can affect and you can be of effect. Doesn’t your feeling of lack within your ‘Self’ most predominantly come from not being able to make these exact things happen at present?
Here’s the missing piece! – It begins within the person you see in the mirror.
The only thing you need to do is be willing to look at that person in the mirror that stares straight back at you. What you resist persists and if what you are essentially resisting is your ‘Self’, you will not find the fulfillment you pursue ANYWHERE OUT THERE.
These varying ‘Selves’ you will come across as you look are as interconnected as you and I are having shared the same words here AND as separate as I am as I sit here writing this, to where you are when you are reading it. This glossing over of the ‘Self’ term has thrown many attributes of a person’s ‘Self’ in one basket. We are going to distinguish them from each other again here over the next few weeks and regroup them into more sensible baskets.
‘It is always our own self that we find at the end of the journey. The sooner we face that self, the better’ – Ella Mailart
If you are willing to look, are you willing to know just who’s in your mirror?
If so, check in next week, when we begin with a new perspective on ‘Self-Respect’!