This is ‘your’ life and YOU are in charge of your reality.
You’ve heard that before, right? So why don’t you believe it?
We all choose our experiences and we are all responsible for our own happiness.
We all have the ability to create the life we want – we just have to be clear on ‘what we want’.
And this is exactly where most of us become unstuck. The main reason why most of us don’t get what we want is because we haven’t decided what we want. We do have free will – it’s a choice, a choice that enables us to take complete control of our lives and design things the way we want them to be!
Create the life you want to live …
Once you make a decision about ‘what’ your life looks like, the laws of the universe conspire to make it happen! If we were asked to design our ‘ideal life’ many of us would write a list that seeks more money, more romance, more success or more happiness ….
But the trap is that all of this is external stuff! And when we seek external things to satisfy us we give our power away… because when we don’t ‘get’ these things that we want or when ‘problems’ arise, we inevitably become dissatisfied, and we make life even more difficult for ourselves.
We get sucked into a vortex of negative beliefs and constantly repeating patterns like we don’t have enough money, we are not smart enough, we are not good enough, we are unlovable, unsuccessful and unhappy. And this gets us nowhere, except further into the downward spiral. Have you noticed that when you get caught up in a rut focusing on all the things you don’t want – you just seem to get more it?
It’s true. And here’s why.
Whatever the mind believes, the mind can achieve …
Neuroscience tells us that our brain responds to what we have experienced in our past as our reality and then we bring it forward with our thinking and emotion. When we do this, we create – yes, you guessed it, more of it.
Your mind is such a powerful instrument that it can literally deliver everything you want!
But you have to believe – wholeheartedly, completely, and with absolute clarity and certainty, that what you want is possible.
Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want …
Try to be ‘aware’ of the broken record you repeatedly play over and over again.
Instead of saying, “I am too tired” being focused on how tired you are why not say “I will take a rest so to replenish my energy”.
If you are focused on not having enough money and your broken record is saying you can’t get out of debt, replace it with “I will start a budget and keep an eye on where I am spending my money”.
One that gets thrown around a lot is “I am too fat” this is a common catch cry … what about focusing on what you want and say to yourself “I will exercise 30 minutes three times a week.”
Find that negative believe and give it a solution, something to focus on that will yield you results and start to provide your brain with ‘proof’ that you can help yourself when you’re exhausted, that you can find a way to solve money problems and you can start to lose weight and be healthier.
Give yourself permission to dream BIG …
If you are going to be successful in creating the life that you want to live, the life of your dreams, you have to ‘believe’ that you are capable of making it happen and the only way to do that is to have a plan.
The simple fact of the matter is that your brain is wired to respond to goals and if you don’t have a plan or a goal it’s like jumping in your car and not knowing where you want to go. When you give your unconscious mind a goal it will work day and night to achieve it and that’s the secret right there!
Don’t just focus on ‘what’ you want but focus on ‘why’ you want it, in order to keep yourself focused and motivated. The ‘why’ factor is usually the warm fuzzy feeling of achievement or joy you get when you’re thinking about what you want, and it’s so important to keeping you on track.
Pretty soon you’ll see signs that you’re well on track to getting everything you want. Don’t be daunted by setbacks, use them as opportunities to reset, and keep going.
Once you accept that you are the creator of your reality and that you are in charge of your life, this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means that you can do, change, and be anything you want to be!